Regardless of how long you’ve been together, having to tell your boyfriend that you are pregnant can feel daunting and scary. Thankfully, you’re not alone — Palm Beach Women’s Clinic is here to guide you through your unplanned pregnancy. From no-cost medical services to helpful tips and advice, we’ve got you covered!
Here are a few steps to take before you tell your boyfriend you are pregnant:
Confirm Your Pregnancy
Before you go through the stress and worry of planning how you’ll tell your boyfriend you’re pregnant, we recommend confirming your pregnancy through lab-quality pregnancy testing and an ultrasound scan through your local pregnancy clinic!
Even if you’ve already taken an at-home pregnancy test, it’s important to confirm your pregnancy through a medical-grade test. Once you receive a positive test, we will provide you with an ultrasound scan. Even if you’re considering abortion, an ultrasound scan is essential.
In fact, an ultrasound is the only way to know for sure if you are pregnant with a viable pregnancy. If your ultrasound reveals your pregnancy is not viable outside of the womb, the conversation with your boyfriend will likely look pretty different.
Your ultrasound will also reveal important information about your pregnancy such as gestational age, location, and other health conditions.
If you think your boyfriend would want to be there for your ultrasound, we still recommend scheduling an appointment at Palm Beach Women’s Clinic to receive lab-quality pregnancy testing and to chat with one of our helpful staff members before your conversation.
Process Your Thoughts and Feelings
The moment many women discover they are pregnant, they begin considering how other people will respond. Before you tell your boyfriend, we recommend taking time to explore how you feel apart from the opinions of others.
Are you excited? Sad? Worried?
All of your feelings are valid, however, we recommend taking time to explore which of these emotions are motivated by fear and anxiety and whether or not there is support available that may help you feel more calm and confident.
If you’re unsure of how to feel during this time, the staff at Palm Beach Women’s Clinic is here to help you explore your emotions and the resources available to help you during this time.
Pick a Time and Place
Telling anyone about an unplanned pregnancy can feel intimidating, and it might be tempting to text or call to tell your boyfriend you are pregnant. However, with a conversation this important, we recommend picking a time and place that will allow for the two of you to have a productive and meaningful conversation. This could be a park or someone’s home.
If you’re nervous about how he might respond, you may want to bring a trusted adult or friend along with you, even if they’re sitting nearby for support.
Ask Him for Support
Finding out you’re pregnant can leave you feeling vulnerable and alone. It’s possible your boyfriend does not understand just how much his support may mean to you during this time.
This is why it’s so important to explicitly ask for his support. You may even want to give him specific ways he can be there for you during this time.
Get Help From a Professional
Are you still feeling worried about telling your boyfriend the news? Schedule an appointment at Palm Beach Women’s Clinic to chat with one of our staff members, get helpful advice for your conversation, and no-cost medical services and resources.